Whether you grew up as an only child or in a house full of boys, there is one common problem we all seem to run into on a daily basis. Being as I was an only child, when I married my husband, I learned fairly quickly to look before sitting down to do business. Which leads my to my topic of the day: Toilet Seat Debate.
It was my first really significant arguement I had with my husband when we got married and started living together. The first few weeks I fell in quite regularly, and each time he simply would ask why I hadn't looked. Exasperatedly, I always replied, "Why don't you just put the seat down?" and our day would go on.
However, soon I became irritated and things blew up when I had fallen in enough times. Men rationalize the woman should look, women think the man should be more thoughtful. It's not easy going from living in an apartment in college with all girls to living with a guy and figuring his ways out. So here is what I've gathered from my marriage: no begging or pleading is going to get my guy to put that seat down. End of story.
So here is what you can do to fix the problem:
-Write a reminder note that sits in front of the toilet
-Ask him every time he exits the bathroom
-Remind him it can be a health hazard
-Reward good behavior
-Always give compliments for his remembering
-Make him clean the toilet once in a while so he sees if he makes a mess
-Persistance and Patience are key elements!
I have yet to get mine to the next level, but come to an agreement on it......and as always show love and affection towards one another. It's a small problem......it can be fixed with care and compassion, and maybe alittle nudge from time to time. We love our spouse, let's love them alittle more today than we did yesterday!
Keith and I compromised. We both put the lid all the way down so we both have to lift it up to go the the bathroom.
ReplyDeleteI am from a family of 10. 6 girls, 4 boys. My brothers put the seat down. My dad puts the seat down. Leaving it up when it's just an apartment/house full of guys....sure. otherwise it's just kind of....nasty.
ReplyDeleteIf it really does become a huge issue, compromise. Maybe it seems like something "silly" to argue over or have to come to a conclusion about, but you do what you have to. it's like i said before, why stress over something you have control over and can do something about?
Newlyweds often get the idea that life will be all rainbows, roses and romance. (after all, "we love each other!") and while that love is great and all...take into consideration that it's 2 people from 2 different backgrounds trying to "mesh". it takes time. and patience. and a lot of practice. it WILL happen, just not right away.
marriage is hard enough, why make it harder?